I love weddings – but I’m single!

So, you love weddings, but you are single!? Trust me! I’ve been there! There’s something magical about weddings, and so many of us, even inadvertently, have an idea at the back of our minds as to what we would like our big day to be like should we ever get married. There’s just a tiny hitch – we are single! Going to events on our own – whether it’s a wedding, a Christmas party or even New Year’s Eve on our own is just not ideal. It’s not what we want for our lives but we are struggling to change our situation – so what are we doing to do about it?

Well, it doesn’t matter where you live – we don’t want to go to festive parties on our own and so that is why this time of year is PERFECT to put yourself out there and try online dating. If you want to find someone local – just search online for your location and dating sites (for example “Belfast dating site”).

Dating online is now the way a vast majority of couples meet. We are always connected to the internet and apps and perhaps that makes us blinkered to the “real world” but there are so many amazing success stories that it is most definitely not a passing fad or something that was once seen as only for the sad and desperate. Whether you are looking for something local (like dating sites in Belfast) or you want to narrow down you search based on something difference such as your age (for example with senior dating) there is an opportunity for you.

Online dating can sometimes feel a little overwhelming or scary – particularly if we’ve never done it before, or even done it but had a bad experience, but I’m 99.9% certain that Mr or Mrs Right isn’t going to fall out of the sky and land on you without any effort on your part. You’ve got to put yourself out there and with dating sites being so widely used they really are a great place to start the search. There will be someone older than you, younger than you, fatter than you, thinner than you, with more hair than you or less hair than you….. whatever your hang ups about yourself, you are amazing and someone will love you for who you are.

If you are nervous about online dating, firstly, don’t put all your eggs in one basket – the first person you meet probably won’t be your soul mate so don’t get carried away and scare people off, but equally, make sure you date safely. From checking in with a friend during the evening and when you get home, a friend who also knows who, where and when you are meeting. Make sure you don’t meet someone at your address (or theirs) on the first date – it always needs to be a public place! Also, remember that if anything doesn’t feel right, just make your excuses and leave. There’s no point sitting there feeling uncomfortable and miserable and you don’t owe anyone an explanation or any of your time.

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