Dating can be super expensive, but it can also be done if you are being frugal or savvy with your money. I’m not saying be cheap, far from it, but like with everything in life, why spend money if you don’t need to right?
The first thing to do is to look for completely free dating sites – not one that is free to register or sign up for, but then charges a fortune to contact any potential matches. Some people feel that if people are paying for a dating site then they will be more serious or more inclined to be a better quality of match, but having personally tried both paid dating sites in the UK and free dating sites UK, I can confirm that this is not necessarily the case!
Once you have found someone you want to date, or at least go on a date with, there is nothing wrong with telling them you are being frugal and just going for a coffee or something the first time you meet. If you don’t feel comfortable talking money at this stage – just say you would rather just go for a coffee or drink the first time. Either way, why do you want to commit several hours of your time and loads of money on a meal or movie that you might not enjoy?!
This is particularly relevant at this time of year, where everywhere is charging more. Restaurants have hiked their prices, everywhere seems to be doing Christmas specials, and nothing is being charged at its usual rate. Whilst we all want to be with someone special over the festive period, perhaps it’s better to wait until the new year before meeting up with new people – as that will definitely save some money!
Once you have gotten to know the person more and you are comfortable discussing things like this with them, explain to them that your financial position means that you can’t spend a fortune – but equally you don’t expect them to pay for everything either. You can find loads of fun but cheap or even free activities to do together, and they can be just as enjoyable, if not more so, than ones that may cost a small fortune.
Even if you have been together for a long time, you don’t need to start splashing the cash just because you are invested emotionally in the relationship. I’m not cheap, but I do like saving money and living frugally – mainly because I want to save my money for the more fun things. Why pay full price for a cinema ticket if you can find a 2 for 1? Why pay full price for a meal out at a restaurant if you can find a buy one get one free, or free starter with every main voucher? There’s a difference between being tight and being sensible and unless you and your partner are millionaires or billionaires, and money doesn’t matter to you, then there’s no shame in talking about it and being frugal while dating!